6 tips to help you feel confident in your clothes

I have always been a person that struggles to keep my weight in a healthy place – my entire life, it’s been something I worried about much more than I should. However, to stop it burrowing a deep hole in my tiny mind, I have come up with a few strategies to help me feel on confident on the regs, no matter WHAT  the scales say. 

So for me, it’s always how I feel in my clothes that bothers me, I hate them feeling tight and if I don’t feel comfy then it’s impossible for me to feel confident, sexy and if I am honest, to enjoy my day. So here’s my tips to feel fab in your clothes: 

  1. Have a wardrobe clearout. If there are things that you have in your wardrobe that you haven’t worn for over a year, donate them to a charity shop. I know that in the back of your mind, you are thinking “I will keep that piece because it’s nice and it might fit me again soon”. But here’s the thing, it’s true that if your weight changes, it might fit you again, but what’s also true is that every time you open your wardrobe, you are reminded by some of the things in there, that they don’t fit. No-one wants a disappointed sigh when they are choosing clothes! GET RID 🆗 My compromise, would be to pick your favourite outfit out of all the ones staring at you that you don’t wear and donate the rest. Let’s face it, if you ever did change your body shape, you are more than likely going to enjoy shopping for some new stuff! 
  2. Have a honest conversation with yourself about size. I know that over the years I have been SO many different dress sizes and I feel more comfortable in some than others. BUT no-one in the world needs to know your size and once you have your clothes on, not a single person in ANY day will ask you what size dress you are wearing. So my tip here would be, buy the size that fits you, even if it’s not the one that you feel comfortable at. This goes back to the first tip, that you must always strive to buy/wear clothes that make you feel like an utter legend, every single day!
  3. One big thing that I try not to do, it’s speak negatively about myself. This is my toughest challenge to be honest. But… I try not to say that my hair is a mess or my clothes look sh*t as words matter and if you hear them often enough, even from yourself, you might start to believe them. If I heard someone tell my friend their outfit was awful, I would JUMP to their defense pretty damn quick. So why would I say those things to myself. But I know it’s hard if you are in that headspace to find one thing you like, but it can just be something small like your earrings or your little thumb nail. Positivity spreads. 
  4. Ignore trends at ALL costs. There comes a time in your life, age irrelevant, where you realise what suits you and trends are exactly that. For example, I have hooded eyes and the current trend for winged eyeliner has seen me try SEVERAL times to perfect the flick, but always failing miserably. So earlier this year, I let it go 🐸. Work out what suits you, what makes you feel awesome when you put it on and go with that. 
  5. Never keep clothes for “best”. So I know this might be controversial for some of you, but I rarely keep clothes for best. If I love something, I just wear it. Obviously I keep things appropriate for the setting I am in, but I don’t leave a perfectly good dress/jumper/pair of jeans in the wardrobe for the right occasion, I just bloody well put them on. I might fall under a bus tomorrow and then I might not ever get a chance to wear it! 
  6. The final tip I think is the most important. Ignore Social Media. Everyone just posts their highlight reel and with the help of filters, excellent light and picking 1 “best” photo out of 100. It’s all too easy to look at your own face, look at social media and feel like you don’t measure up – but believe me you do. you 1000% do

It all starts with a smile, so even if you don’t feel like it, smile for a few seconds. I sometimes do this and if I look in the mirror (lets be honest phone camera), I look so sarcastic – which then makes me do a genuine smile 😛. 

So there you have it, as always, I would love to hear any tips you might have for walking with confidence. 

G x 

Vegan Mushroom Risotto

Ingredients

Serves 2

100g Arborio Rice

1/2 white onion (finely chopped)

100g Mushrooms (sliced)

1/2 tbsp White Wine Vinegar

4 tbsp Nutritional Yeast

4 cloves of garlic (crushed)

500 ml of vegetable stock

Handful of fresh parsley

Salt & Pepper to taste

  1. Put the garlic and onion in a pan on medium heat and sauté until onion is soft
  2. Add the mushrooms and cook for another minute.
  3. Stir in the rice
  4. Quickly add the stock and the white wine vinegar
  5. Bring to the boil, then simmer for 30 minutes until liquid is absorbed and rice is cooked. Add more hot water if required.
  6. When rice is cooked, stir in the nutritional yeast and chopped parsley.
  7. Seasons to taste and serve immediately.
  • p.s. Nutritional yeast was new to us and we got ours from Holland & Barrett. It replaces the Parmesan as it has a cheesy flavour!
  • 10lb gain (An Honest Post) | Getting Healthy

    OK, well before I write this post I look at these photos and what I notice is that I look happy, I mean the mad hair and odd socks say it all I think. Also YES, my t-shirt does say Ewe Tube. That’s the way it goes.

    Anyway, the last time I posted a Getting Healthy Blog was on the 1st January and that’s mainly because I haven’t really been as healthy as I should have. I haven’t been weighed for ages, but when I finally bit the bullet this morning, I had gained 10lbs. Gutted. All my life my weight has gone up and down, and it’s been a constant struggle.

    So I am going to re-focus, and see where I am this time next week. I just need to move a little more and eat more fruit and veg. One of my favourite evening meals is a Turkey Hash which I cook in our slow cooker:

    Turkey Hash (Slow Cooker)

    Serves 4
    Cooking Time: 7 hours on low

    Ingredients

    500g Turkey Mince
    500g New Potatoes (diced)
    500g Butternut Squash (I used a bag of Frozen from Tesco)
    1 x red onion (diced)
    3 x bay leaves
    3 x tablespoons of Worcestershire Sauce
    2 x Courgettes  (I have subbed this for Aubergine, also lovely)

    Basically bung it all the slow cooker and cook for 7 hours without taking the lid off. Delicious.

    G x

    I’m not beautiful – but actually I am.

    So much of acceptance in society is based on how we look, how we present ourselves to the world. At this time of year especially, when seemingly every TV advert, documentary and online article is focussed on people losing weight and becoming a “new person”. But frankly diet culture is very wearing.

    I’m in the middle of my own weight loss journey, but it’s very important to remind myself why I started. I was unhealthily overweight, I think the term you might use is “medically obese”. I couldn’t climb stairs and I struggled to get clothes to fit me, my resting HR was too high and I was at risk of Type 2 diabetes (which runs in my family).

    You see, beauty has nothing to do with weight or dress size and I know this for a fact. I used to work with a girl years ago who, on nights out, used to get approached by guys ALL the time. She was an exotic looking brunette which was a big hit with every penis within 5 feet of her. However, this particular girl was also an absolute hard-faced cow so no matter how symmetrical her face, her bitchy nature used to shine through if you spent more than 10 minutes with her. *Side note* I bumped into this person a couple of years ago at a funeral of all places and we exchanged brief pleasantries.  Later when I needed to get past her in a room full of mourners, she firstly pretended that she didn’t hear me when I said the the standard “Excuse me”,  I tried again with no response and eventually when I tapped her shoulder and repeated my request, she moved perhaps an inch, so I still couldn’t get really get past with bumping into people’s chairs. We had no beef whatsoever, but like I said, 🐮.

    But I digress. Beauty is definitely something that different people have a different idea of, which is one of the wonderful things about it. I have known people that were long-term single  and heard them lament about different people that they knew that were happily in relationships whilst they remained on the shelf. One was even more candid than perhaps they intended to be wondering out loud why a person they knew had a boyfriend, when that person “didn’t go to the gym or anything”. I remember thinking at the time that perhaps that comment explained her singledom, but who am I to judge….

    My point is basically this. Beauty is whatever you want it to be and it doesn’t depend on how you look. That’s not to say, don’t try to look good, whatever that means to you. Wear clothes because they make you feel kick-ass and not because you think you should or worse, because you think other people will think you look good.

    As I get older I care so much less about what other people think about me, but this is something I have learned over time. I think I know what type of clothes suit me and I am now not really swayed by trends. I want to feel sexy and I obviously want my husband to find me attractive, but I know that part of my own power comes from confidence, some of which comes from me wearing stuff I feel amazing in.

    They biggest thing I try to do is not say bad things to myself because if anyone told my friends “That looks shit on you” I would immediately jump in and tell them they were wrong, ergo, why did I ever say that to myself?

    Don’t get me wrong, I am not perfect at this and there are definitely times when my own confidence takes a knock, but I am actively trying to empower myself in 2018. Women are amazing, beautiful and powerful and this has nothing to do with dress size. Be healthy, be skinny, be bigger, be curvy, big boobs, small boobs, strong, curly, bald, hairy, small, tall or absolutely anything that you like, it’s ALL beautiful. Don’t let anyone, any Instagram or Snapchat filter tell you otherwise or even make you think for one second you aren’t good enough. Unless you are Donald Trump, in which case, you are crap. Otherwise, you are AMAZING!

    G x

    p.s. this photo is in 2 halves, the first one is taken straight out of the shower and the other one is after I am dressed and I have put some makeup on. My tendency is to think I look like CRAP in the first one, but it’s my face and my face is definitely NOT crap. If I had smiled then the 2 photos would have been the same apart from a bit of mascara and things. Both sides of this image contain me, who works hard, loves her family, laughs at fart jokes, gives back and is kind to strangers. This is my beauty.

    I’ve entered Race for Life!

    Ok people get ready, it’s that time of year…..I have entered the 2018 Race for Life. Around this time every year since 2004 I enter this race, which is a 5k that I do to raise money for Cancer Research UK.

    I have already lost 3 of my grandparents to cancer and in 2015 I lost mum. I have blogged before about how heartbreaking my mum’s cancer journey was and I honestly wouldn’t want another family to go through it. It almost broke me in two when she passed away.

    Also in 2017 I started a fitness journey, which is still ongoing. In July 2017 I did the Haydock Race for Life and I was thrilled to walk around in a decent time, so in 2018 I am hoping to do a sort of run/walk and maybe create a new personal best!

    Anyway, if you have got a spare £1 or £5 or anything at all really, I would really appreciate it if you could support me and Cancer Research UK by clicking on the picture below:

    December Update | Getting Healthy

    One thing I learned in 2017 is that a pound here or there isn’t the end of the world. My whole reason to try to lose weight was to feel healthier and to fit into my clothes better, which I do! But I am not finished yet. I want to get down to 12 stones and then, even though Weight Watchers still deems this overweight, I know I will feel happy and fit enough to leave it there.

    You can see from the calendar above, I actually put 2lbs on in December, but I am not too worried as this encompassed the wonderfulness that is Christmas and I enjoyed every mouthful. We have also gone for plenty of walks and I have really enjoyed being outside making full use of the park right next to our house.

    I am really hoping that I learn to love my body a little more and I am going to work on adjusting my thoughts to be more positive around self-image. I still don’t always like what I see when I look in the mirror, but I am getting better. For Christmas I got a few gorgeous jumpers, all in a size 14 and I was more than a little surprised to see they all fit. This is around a size and a half smaller than I was wearing last year, when I was in a 16/18 top. I was also wearing size 18 jeans, which is definitely a size smaller than last year!! My brain did an odd thing though. The tops that I bought, did fit me, but my brain told me that they must have been a “BIG” size 14, as in, the shops’ sizes must be slightly off. My brain hasn’t adjusted to my weight loss yet but it needs to catch up, as I am sat in one of the said garments right now!  If you are interested, they are my 3 new favourite sweatshirts:

    Scamp & Dudehttps://scampanddude.com/product/adult-super-soft-sweatshirt-coral-leopard/

    M&S Snowmanhttp://www.marksandspencer.com/snowman-flecked-effect-jumper-with-wool/p/p22336528?&pdpredirect

    Next Snowmanhttp://www.next.co.uk/style/st187503#156830

    I just want to carry on making healthy choices this year and get fitter, healthier and stronger. This isn’t a New Year’s resolution, but just a continuation of my 2017 mission. I know I can do it, I have come this far and I haven’t finished yet!

    G x

    November Weight Loss | Getting Healthy

    How is it already the end of November? I re-joined Weight Watchers in May this year and as you can see my weight loss has been sort of steady since I did. This month wasn’t great as I was doing ok but had one week where it went horribly wrong and I put on 3.5 lbs 😔 But on a positive note, I did finish the month with a loss, so I ended up -1.5 lbs overall. I think it’s important for me to recognise that in certain circumstances it’s ok not to focus on the numbers, but more about feeling good, making healthy choices and recognising how far I have come.

    I found the picture above of me in the black clothes on my camera as I was looking through a memory card this morning. I decided to take the same photos to see if I could see a difference and I was honestly shocked, because I really could!

    I am so proud of how far I have come and even though I have got a way to go, I feel SO pleased that this has happened to me this year. It’s feels like it’s changing my life. So, this week is going to be a good one and even though I am off to Leicester for the week, I am more determined than ever to keep things going!

    G x

    Non Scale Victories | Getting Healthy

    So I am 6 months into this whole weight loss thing and today I experienced a helluva non-scale victory. There is a beautiful waterfall in Ambleside called Stock Ghyll Force and today on a visit to the Lakes we decided to climb up to it. The walk is up a series of stone steps and last time we visited was when our lovely friend Elizabeth visited us from the US in October 2015. I was almost 3 stones (42lbs) heavier back then and I didn’t make it to the top. As evidenced in this vlog:

    But today I felt like a new woman! I practically sprang up the hill and it really didn’t feel like that much of an effort! I was breathing a little heavier in the steeper bits, but honestly, I did it no trouble! We took lots of photos of course, including this Insta of me reaching the top!

    We also had a chance to try out the camera on M’s new iPhone X. As you can see, it’s pretty awesome. I especially like the selfie in front of the waterfall.

    Today was a pretty epic day! G x